See the positive of sheltering-in-place
Minnesota just had their shelter-in-place order extend an extra 3.5 weeks. These are some crazy times. Absolutely positively crazy times that this entire world is going through. It’s not just one state, it’s not just one nation but the entire world is dealing with this pandemic. It’s difficult to see the positive of sheltering-in-place, but there are indeed some positives. I’m here to help you understand how to be able to see the positive side.
What we worry about
Aside from the Covid19 virus being extremely frightening and serious, there are other complaints happening all over the world. Let’s start with what exactly the negative things that we’re facing are.
From business owners not thinking that they will come out of this, to mothers that are “stuck” at home with their littles homeschooling, working and tending to their husbands. When we sit and worry about these things and how will we ever come out of this… it can cause even more stress and anxiety.
Try and start to see the positive of sheltering-in-place by thinking this way, first of all, you are not stuck at home… you are SAFE at home. Cut the shit and stop being ignorant. Do you REALLY want to find out what it’s like to get this thing? You could have a slight cough, you could be out on the couch with a fever and body aches, and this virus has also resulted in death.
How to look past it
I don’t know about you, but I really don’t want to find out for myself OR my family how this virus would affect us. I’d rather stay at home and “be bored”. So how do you get past it? How do you look past the boredom and painfully long weeks filled with chaos and negativity? How do we see the positive of sheltering-in-place?
The problem is that most of us are indeed bored. Got news for you, I’ll promise that there is plenty to do around home. Pardon my honesty, but get off your ass and do something other than binge-watch Netflix. (Yes, this is a great way to pass some time). And by all means, go for it! But if you seriously have been doing this for 2 solid weeks…no wonder why you’re bored and tired. Some of us are probably doing zero productive things around the house at home. It’s hard to keep those kids busy too!
Start by walking through the house and putting a list together. Get the laundry done, organize your closets, clean, sanitize or exercise!
Maybe you don’t have time for any of it, so what then? What if you don’t have time for it? This is our situation, we don’t have time to organize or clean. So what we are working on is taking advantage of the togetherness. That’s quite the thought, isn’t it?
Embrace it, don’t hate it
Change your mindset. Mind over matter. Stop your thoughts dead in their tracks. Instead of “why is my kid being the devil” try thinking “they must be frustrated, I’ll take 5 minutes to figure it out.” I’ll put money on the fact that once you chat about things, they will instantly get better.
Instead of “I can’t do all of this at once right now”, think “What can I stop doing for a few minutes to focus on the other things”. You’ll feel less overwhelmed and more capable of being able to multi-task.
Take these small moments of change that you are initiating from negative to positive, and embrace the fact that you are home, you are safe and hopefully healthy. Embrace the fact that you have family and friends, while you’re at it throw that friend a text. Call up those family members. Check on each other, and bet here for each other. We all need it, we all need support right now more than ever.
You’ll never have this again
There are some scary things that families are dealing with. Most have someone in the home laid off. Some have a sick family member, others need to try to juggle caring for kids as well as homeschooling and working full time from the home office all at once. Practice being compassionate towards others. All we can do is hope that this is a one in a lifetime situation that we are currently in.
If your significant other is there with you (or not, and working extra hard on the front lines), then show your compassion and appreciation for them. It will help to eliminate some of that anxiety for them. Be compassionate and understanding towards co-workers. No one’s situation is the same and each has its own hurdles.
Start to see the positive of sheltering-in-place by knowing and understanding that you will most likely never have this again. You’ll never get the chance to have the kids home with you during the day of getting the chance to work from a home office. You may not get the chance to zoom call and video chat with family this often ever again.
We are in an era of technology. Without it, we would not be near as close as we are right now. We might be physically apart, but we are mentally and emotionally together more than we ever have been before. I’ll put money on the fact that you’ll miss those little monsters when things eventually go back to normal. And they will, things will eventually go back to normal. It’s just a matter of time.
Hang in there, keep your chin up and remember that your friends and family are here for you. Here are some tips on how to keep your sanity during this crazy time, and also know that. I’m here for you, my inbox is just waiting for notes and messages from you so we can chat about anything and everything.
Cheers, my fellow quarantiners.