Guest post by: Kimmie – a mother of twins
Sleep like a baby, the biggest joke known to moms of infants, at least it was to me. How I got my twins on a sleeping schedule is still a mystery to me, but hey whatever happened, WORKED!
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A routine is how I got my twins on a sleeping schedule
When welcoming my daughters into the world I knew I needed a schedule and a routine because that’s the kind of person I am, captain type A. I read all the books, joined all the infant sleep groups and did the homework, I was ready to get these twins to sleep! … Or so I thought.
My girls were born at 36&2, one was in the NICU for 10 days and they were tiny! I had to wake them every three hours and feed them x amount to ensure proper weight gain, we had a weekly doctor’s appointment for weight checks.
But the routine wasn’t working
The schedule I had planned wasn’t happening. Nothing was going my way. My plan fell through… well, I guess it wasn’t the plan and I just needed to take the ride.
After 7 months (I went back to work at 5 months postpartum) I was literally losing my mind because I was still getting up 6 times a night. (3 for each baby) it was not realistic. Exhaustion was taking over, it was time for a change.
So, I reached out to a sleep consultant, something I never thought I would do. After all, I already knew what I was doing… I read ALL the books. What I didn’t know was that the girls were capable of more then I was letting them be capable of.
They were in a timed sleep cycle that they had trained me to respond to. I was the problem. Damn it! That’s when I finally learned that it’s NORMAL FOR BABIES TO NOT SLEEP ALL NIGHT UNTIL ONE AND A HALF!
So then what? … It takes time
Thank goodness I found this out sooner than later because my girls didn’t both sleep all night until over 14 months. Yep, 14 whole months it took. 7 months of truly sleep training them and myself, and mama, that’s okay.
I now have great sleepers! Having great sleepers definitely depends on a bedtime routine. We never changed it, consistency truly is key. That is exactly how I got my twins on a sleeping schedule, consistency.
Kids LOVE routine and schedules
When kids know what to expect “next” it helps with transitions of the day, especially naps and bedtime. I learned you can’t give in, whatever you do, you cannot change the routine.
It will throw the next few days off. (No one wants screaming kids) DAYS can feel like WEEKS when it comes to sleeping.
Make sleep a priority
Now, nap and bedtime are our number one priorities, still at 2.3 years. My girls go to bed no later than 7. If they have bad naps, bedtime is 630, and they will sleep until 7/730.
The fact of the matter is… I’m not the mom I thought I would be. I let my kids cry, I had to sleep train them and it ripped me apart to hear them, but it was the best thing I did for all of us.
Sleep training is okay
We didn’t let them cry for hours on end, we basically had to do the Ferber Method. Heard of it? If not, and if you are having sleep troubles with your babies, this book is WELL WORTH it. If it’s not your thing, then you’re only out ten bucks. It’s worth a shot, for your sanity. Just try it, I DARE YOU!
My girls learned that I was still there and they were safe and I learned shits not always going to go my way and it’s okay. If you would have asked me if I would sleep train my girls I would have rolled my eyes and said I’m not letting my baby feel abandoned.
Well, I didn’t let them feel abandoned, I just taught them and myself that we were capable of sleep! Again, it’s the best thing I ever did.
No one ever said it was easy, you are NOT alone
So mamas, when you are feeling like things are not going as planned and shit is hitting the fan, give yourself grace and know that motherhood isn’t the same for ANY OF US.
Nope, no other mom is like you, and that is a fucking beautiful thing. So whether you have to sleep train or not, get a good sleeper or not…. just know the line “sleep like a baby” is BS and you are not failing.
You are THRIVING and learning your new tiny human as they learn you.
Motherhood is beautiful like that. Hold on and enjoy the ride…. and dream to sleep like your husband… because mine is snoring next to me and he is who sleeps well in this house. Mama, you need good sleep too, always remember that!
Cheers mama, and GOOD LUCK.
About the Author
Kim is a mother of two twin girls which are the biggest blessing she could ask for. She is a strong woman, with strong twin girls and she enjoys sharing her experiences with other mamas.