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Oh, the joys of when your toddler is testing the limits! It can start at age 1, and stay until, well… forever! This is a tricky subject!
Here are 8 ways to cope with when your toddler is testing the limits! Now… we have not quite hit the 4-year-old mark yet, we have a teenager and let us tell you… he definitely knows how to push our buttons and test our limits.
The thing about it is that they do it every day! And they KNOW they are doing it!
Take full advantage of those moments you get to yourself to push the reset button, make time every day to do this.
For instance….morning is the only time I get to myself to drink warm coffee. My opportunity to work, do laundry, clean. 30 minutes after everyone leaves the house. So I take full advantage of this every day possible!
Remember…We still love them!
Our kids are our world. Literally… there is not much time for anything else. Heaven forbid actual time for yourself.
Now I have a bit of a case of FOMO. Maybe we’ll do a post on that later on, but for now, let’s just say that even though I have a fear of missing out when your toddler is testing the limits… it makes it easier to take some time apart!
It is OKAY to feel like you need that time when they drive you nuts because THEY WILL DRIVE YOU NUTS!
8 Ways to Cope
How can we deal with our kids when they drive us nuts? Especially when they are so little. It takes patience, perseverance, coffee, wine, and a lot of deep breaths. Here is what helps us in our house.
Take a break
Even though it may feel like it is IMPOSSIBLE to take a break, force yourself to. Some times its not easy finding someone else to care for or watch the kids, but you need to. This gives you an opportunity to reset yourself and come back refreshed ready to deal with the task at hand…. a limit testing child!
It’s okay to lose your cool
Stop worrying about it. Accept it. When you lose it, it does not make you a bad parent/mom. It’s okay to yell, you’re going to yell. You have to let it go.
You’d be amazed at how much more patience you have and less stress if it happens, it’s over, and you move on!
Get others to respect you
This one is kind of odd, but it honestly seems to help for a child to have consistency in their life. Encourage others to respect you as a mother and follow your wishes so everyone is on the same page.
Yes… even grandma and grandpa and aunts and uncles who are entitled to spoil your kids… they do need to respect you and follow the rules! Discipline is discipline, and kids do need it.
Yes… apologize to your child when you yell. Ensure your kids that you did not mean it and CALMLY explain to them why you yelled. Keep it short and sweet. Too long of explanations confuse and frustrate them! Typically there’s no reason or excuse for yelling but it happens. In this case, refer back to number 2.
It’ll all blow over
Remember that this is just one small, short instance. You will get through it, and everything is just a phase! They will grow up quick!
YOU are the boss
You are the parent! 123 Magic is THEE BEST DISCIPLINE BOOK there is out there!!!! We use this for EVERYTHING in our house. (it might even work on my husband on occasion!) No excuses for not reading, there is a kindle version too. 🙂
Do not have unrealistic expectations
This will just feel like everyone is being set up for failure! Do not hold your kids to a standard that you can’t hold to yourself to! It pretty much explains itself.
Emotions are okay
Let your kids feel emotions. Let them test you. But set boundaries. Explain sad, mad, angry, happy, frustrated and all the emotions and let them know that it’s okay to feel those emotions!
I Challenge You…
Challenge yourself to let your kids feel emotions this week. It’s okay to have emotions. It is so important for them to feel emotions and know and understand what they are.
It is okay for them to be sensitive. Honestly, we are too hard on them and we, as mothers, are too hard on ourselves. Everyone needs to take it easy and just let them feel how they feel.
We are all learning and are far too hard on ourselves. Let it go, move on. Take everything with a grain of salt and just know that it will all be okay. It will blow over and it is just a phase mama. You feel what you feel, and let those kids feel what they feel. Then everyone wakes up, and start a fresh day tomorrow with new happy emotions!