You know the people out there who think they know all, their way is the only way and it is, in fact, the right way?
They seem to think it’s necessary to voice their opinion on every little thing… “You don’t eat organic?” “You’re so thin you can eat whatever you want!” “You don’t breastfeed?” “Your kid isn’t potty trained yet?” “Oh, you live in the suburbs?” “Does that kind of job even pay the bills?” “You look exhausted!”
The list goes on and on and on.
I have something to say to you, and let’s be frank… just shut your mouth. You do NOT know what others have been through or are going through, so just stop talking.
To those being shamed: You are strong, you are beautiful and you keep doing you because that is what is right. So let’s figure out Mom Shaming and What To Do!
Personally I have very rarely been a victim of shaming (mom-shaming or otherwise).
Our family is blessed enough to have a roof over our heads with our baby boys and we are all healthy, so we must be doing something right! But I have heard it and seen it first hand. It’s quite ridiculous. Mama…. Here’s what you need to know:
5 ways to handle Mom Shaming and What To Do.
1. If you do not nurse your baby, it’s more than o.k. Your child is fed, thriving and loves you no matter how the nutrition comes. Right?
You are doing great, keep it up, mama.
2. Piles of laundry and piles of dirty dishes, dog hair everywhere but you decide to sit down on the couch with a glass of wine. DO IT!So what a friend comes over and comments on the messiness; kindly show them the door. Or not kindly, it’s up to you.
You are doing a good job, it is okay to relax and take a minute to yourself, keep it up.
3. You are tired, that’s right. Exhausted. You’re beautiful. Have that cup of coffee, or 5. Don’t put on makeup today, just stay in sweats and proudly trot to the grocery store.
There is no one to impress, being a busy mother is impressive enough in itself.
4. Toddler throwing a tantrum in public and you’re getting looks? Let them look, let your child throw a fit. It will not last forever and things will go back to normal.
I promise. Little kid, big emotions.
5. Cry it out if and when you need to because emotions are important to express.
They are a waste of breath anyways
Anyone person who judges you and shames you is not worth your time or worthy of your friendship.
My messy home sits and waits while I bottle feeds our son and have a beer watching a Hallmark movie because this is the good life not worrying about what others think, say or do.
So really, nothing. We. Do. Nothing.
You are a superhero.
You are strong, beautiful, and deserving of all that you have and all that you do.
Surround yourself with loved ones and people who respect you and your ways. Do not let others get you down. Keep that chin up and do you! Let’s recap one more time, Mom Shaming and What To Do? Nothing. YOU. DO. NOTHING. But raise those little humans the best way you know how and that is better than enough. Love them.
That’s it! Let’s stay positive, momma! Cheers!