Obviously being optimistic is important and can even reduce stress and anxiety. It can even help promote the quality of life. However…. no, it is not all perfect and sometimes it’s hard to be optimistic. But, we can definitely find the optimism in being a mother! Tonight has been one of those nights. Here it goes. With each stress induced occurrence, a positive outlook will follow.
We get home and the downstairs is a disaster due to a dog incident. He clawed his way through sheet rock, left presents for us to clean up and destroyed the dog bed. The mess can wait since it’s in the unfinished basement. Dinner had not been made because we figured chicken strips and mac and cheese is easy enough. The 3 month old is going through a growth spurt and is cranky. He is eating and sleeping like a champ. The 2 year old has a cold and is whiney and needy. Elderberry to the rescue and at least it’s only a cold. All while the hubs is working late. He will be home to do bath time. Dirty bottles and pump parts from the day get put in the fridge so they don’t get icky, those can wait. Dinner needs to get in the oven! Grab that instapot and the recipe book and throw something in, quick!
So after the little one eats, dinner is served… things are better! Until mom needs a potty break. So baby is screaming because he got set down, it’s good exercise to build up those lungs right?! The toddler colored his hands with black marker, thank goodness it’s washable with these handy dandy organic wipes for my babies!
Dad walks in to complete chaos with a case of beer, he’s pretty wonderful. He chows down dinner, which is always re heated for him yet he never complains. Then we do a puzzle with the kids and get ready for bath and bed. The process of getting the boys to bed was stressful since they didn’t really want to sleep and kept fighting us! But we eventually won and by 9 pm both were sleeping.
Oh shit, did the dog get fed? The bottles and pump parts didn’t get cleaned yet. The left over food from dinner is still out. Hmm. Well, let’s sit down, have a beer (or 2 in my case tonight), watch the Wolves and get ready for bed.
So it’s not perfect. It is tough, and no one ever said momming was going to be easy! There are seriously not enough hours in the day. I said all of 4 words to the hubby tonight because we are both stressed out and it was a rough day at work and chaotic at home. I did not get to spend time with our toddler. And that makes me sad. However at the end of the night he says “good night mom and dad. I love you mom and dad.” This makes everything okay again!
At the end of the day, you are great. You are loved, and the best part….. you get to sleep! So please, sleep. Turns out it’s pretty darn healthy to catch a good amount of shut eye! No one and nothing is perfect 100% of the time. Imperfection makes us who we are. Embrace it. You can Find the optimism in being a mother and I am proud of you for it!!!