Traditional Mother/Father Roles – STOP IT!
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If you are stuck in old fashioned ways… move on. Because this post is not for you and you most likely will not like it. Traditional Mother/Father roles are not what they used to be so let’s keep an open mind when discussing this topic, mother and father roles are not the same anymore.
Tradition has changed, and some people are stuck in old ways, which is great if the couple both enjoy their roles as husband and wife, homemaker, and child-raiser. Some moms feel guilty for taking time for themselves, but it is essential in staying sane!
What are traditional roles anyways, and how do we break free from such a traditional way of life? Change it up a bit, give mom a break and let dad do some of the heavy lifting around the house with the kids. Sounds wonderful, doesn’t it?
Mom can get sick of cleaning, cooking, and being a housewife
If honesty is key, then here it is. A mom can get super sick of her traditional role at home which is being a housewife full time, especially with all of the expectations in today’s society.
On top of homemaking; we’re also caring for kids, and working. Whether it be full time work work, full time mom work, or part time work. It’s all work, in addition to the cooking, cleaning, and caring for others in the family.
So we’re also expected to keep ourselves healthy, fit, and looking fabulous? You’re lucky if I shower and get dressed to look halfway decent in public, let alone put on makeup or blow dry my hair! Sleep? Who has time for that?
Time for society to shove it.
Time for society to realize that mothers are being held to a totally and completely unrealistic expectation and it is wearing on them.
It is causing more mental health issues along with making some moms too exhausted to even function during simple daily tasks. So how do we fix this! Time to put your foot down mama, and make it damn clear that someone else can help out once in a while.
How do we fix it?
So what is the solution here? We, as housewives and mothers… are overworked, and not paid! There is never a simple thank you because of what is naturally expected of us.
Moms rarely complain about this, as we know it is our duty and responsibility to care for the kids and take care of the house. Or is it?
The only thing that is enjoyable about all of it…. is the kids. Playing with the kids, teaching the kids, and spending quality time with them.
Well it’s time, it is time for expectations to be lowered, and negative feedback/comments to be kept to ones self and instead a simple thank you would suffice.
I do know that the dads get sick of working so dang much, definitely over 40 hours per week. This is more than full time. It does not have to be this way. Mom works a full time job too these days, and I do know a few stay-at-home dads that would not have it any other way.
Be bold, make a move, and step away from tradition. To fix the issue, expectations need to be flushed down the toilet and a line of communication open.
Sorry not sorry
Traditional mother/father roles can be switched, or just simply forgotten for a day which is okay too.
The house is a mess? Yeah, have not had time to clean that business, busy teaching the children how to color.
No clean clothes? Sorry, making dinner so this family can eat. It’s frozen pizza, sorry, ran out of time and the kids had to eat or they get hangry!
Sorry…. not sorry anymore. A human does not have 6 arms. A human simply cannot accomplish all that is expected to be accomplished in 24 hours while still getting a good nights rest. Some of it can just wait, and if it waits.. pretty sure that is just alright.
Everyone is alive and that is a job well done in itself, recognize it and praise it.
Be a Team. Work together.
Today, a husband and a wife are to be a team. Together. It truly does take an army, or a village or both!
One does dinner, one encourages play with kids. One switches laundry while the other cleans up. It is not one or the other any more. There are not enough hours in the day for one person to do it all. Things will be left undone if one person tries to handle it all on their own.
So dad: please do a load of laundry.
Mom, get out there and shovel the driveway, mow the lawn, and grill dinner instead of being cooped up indoors over the stove and by the oven. (I personally love grilling)!
Yes, this mama grills.
Now if you ask my husband, I have yet to mow the lawn, shovel or snow blow, However he does help cook and clean and I am blessed to be a part of team, and venture away from the traditional roles. Give it a try, I dare you.
So lets not step on each other’s toes. Let’s encourage and be supportive of each other’s decisions. Working moms, it’s okay to miss your babies during the day, but you are entitled to having a life outside of those babies!
Lets be positive and optimistic about change. Take a step back and reevaluate. What is best for the family as a whole unit?
Do that. Love and be loved. It’s that simple. Traditional mother/father roles are no more, break free of it.